ABOUT MY GAY MOM

When my mom came out of the closet after twenty-five years of marriage to my dad, I had no idea what was going to happen. Our family was close, weird, and hilarious (not always intentionally) but I’d assumed after that many years together the dynamics were set, save for some horrifying tragedy. Little did I know how strange our weird, little family was about to get.

This blog is my attempt to capture some of those oddly wonderful moments. There will be curse words because my family curses. There will be inappropriate discussions of sex, because we find that’s the only way to discuss the penatration of vaginas, mouths, and butts.

I promise to be honest no matter how much it makes me gag recalling the memories, and I promise to use pictures when I can, because I like pictures.

I hope you enjoy.

Best,
Anthony Szpak

14 thoughts on “ABOUT MY GAY MOM

Really, I’ve just stumbled upon your blog, and I have to tell you how much I love it!

  • Thank you TM for reading! I’m stumbling through this myself. Hopefully, my ridiculous mother will continue to entertain.

    • I just started last night. My wife set up this blog for me months ago, but it took me a bit to finally sit my lazy ass down. I feel like my grandma pecking the keyboard trying to figure out how to edit the About section. I’m mostly a moron. But I promise to keep posting. And grazie grazie for the kind words!

  • I saw you on Ricki Lake today with your mom. I found the segment to be very inspiring. I also came out at 46 as a lesbian after 25 years of marriage. My daughters were 14 and 20 at the time, they are now 15 and 21. They are still very angry with me, but I keep trying with them. Is there any kind of hope you can give me that someday my daughters will forgive me and let me back into their lives?

    • Theresa, I’m so sorry that your daughters have responded this way. One of the best things I have learned through all of this, is that the greatest gift my mom gave me was having the courage to be true to herself. That made her, and now you, an awesome role model – even if it took me, and maybe takes your daughters, a little while to realize it.

      It is possible that your daughters are concerned, much like I was, that this “secret” of yours is indicative of other secrets and may be wondering if they know you at all – which can lead to them feeling lost in their sense of you, the family and themselves.

      Talking to them about how this doesn’t change anything as far as you being their mother is concerned, and how it’s only about one part of you, your sexuality (which you probably didn’t discuss with them before anyway) may be helpful.

      Please let me know if you have any more questions or if there’s anything I can do to help. Thanks for reading!

    • I too, just saw you on Ricki Lake. Like Theresa I came out late, at 48 and my oldest son and his wife have decided that after a number of years of babysitting whenever the need arose, I was no longer fit to be around their children. I can’t tell you how much that hurts. I raised my children to accept others as they are, without judging. Guess I didn’t set that lesson as well as I thought I had. All I keep hoping is that some day they will all realize that I am the same person I was before coming out. I remember my son asking me how he was going to explain to his friends that his mom is gay. I told him that my life styles was mine and I didn’t think it required an explanation to anyone. I lived my life for my children for many years and now it’s time for me to live my life for me. I wouldn’t change anything about coming out, this is who I am and it’s not like it was a choice. It was a choice for many years to hide it, from myself and everyone else. I can only hope that some day my son will realize that I never stopped loving him, or his children.

      • I’m so sorry to hear this was his reaction, but realize how proud the rest of us are that you had the courage to tell the truth. When my mom came out, I was shocked and it wasn’t always easy, not for a moral reason, but I wasn’t sure if I still knew who this woman was. In time though, I learned that she was the same supportive, amazing, ridiculous, caring, hilarious woman I’ve known my whole life. Don’t give up on your son. Just keep loving him, and I’m sure eventually he’ll remember how lucky is to have you as a mom. Big hugs!

  • And there I actually thought my family is crazy…

    I appreciate the honesty (and the humor!). I think I’m going to follow your blog. :)

  • Just saw you on the Ricki Lake show, Pst time here in Southern California, very interesting. Peace~

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